This husband of mine is a Marketing guy. He is crazy about meeting people, going to new places and always being on the move. When I got married to him, the thought of seeing new places excited me so much, as I’ve never ventured out of Chennai, for the major part of my years spent with parents. Of course, there were few holidays but I remembered none so well.
So, with dreams of going places and meeting new people, we started our life together. Even though we started our life in Chennai, we started moving every 3 years, once in 2 years and we have even stayed for a year in Chennai during transit to Hyderabad. My husband changed jobs and we had to move to a new place. It excited me. The packing, shifting, making new friends, learning new cities, their culture, the temples and of course staying away from all the relatives, gave me a sort of high that I can do what I want 😀
In all these excitements, I missed out on one small thing.
My daughters were very young and I kept changing their school for every shift, as was required. We, as parents, thought that this was a great opportunity for my daughters to learn about adapting to different situations and making new friends every time they joined a new school. And the girls were very happy too, to go to a new school.
During a recent conversation, I came to understand that there is so much joy in studying with friends who are together since KG and still sticking onto each other. Yes, I’ve had that opportunity to study with my friends since KG and till I finished school. I’ve denied my daughters that joy. Sometimes I feel bad.
In our quest for life and career, we had made so many choices, as parents. And all the time, we were thinking that our choices are going to benefit our daughters. But recently, it dawned on me to look at things from their point of view. Even though they have done well in making new friends and sometimes sticking on to old ones, it’s not the same joy as studying with your bestie for years together.
Sometimes even the best of decisions, appear different when viewed from the other side of the river, right ??