Muthu is my household help. A thin girl in her early twenties, but 3 daughters to take care of, not to forget her ever-under-the-influence-of-alcohol husband !!!
One day, she raised a question out of the blue – “Why do the mothers treat their sons so much above daughters, when the sons give only shit to the mothers ???”
A valid question !!! And I was more than willing to understand her point of view…so let the story roll out !!! After all, she needs to rant too.
Muthu is the eldest of 4 children, the youngest of all is a son. Her mother thinks that her son is a gift from God. The sad part is the son doesn’t think the same way. While the three girls work to make their family eat and be happy, the son still eats from his mother’s earnings. Yes, the mother is working too. But this guy has never been successful in getting any job.
Recently Muthu’s younger sister got married and her mother had many debts to clear because of the wedding expenses. Now Muthu’s mother owns two plots of land. And the daughters have suggested that she sells one plot to pay the debts, as the interest is eating her up.
But this mother refuses to do so, as the two plots are for her son. The son is neither bothered by the debts nor by the mother’s slogging !!! What a son !!!
The story repeats with her mother-in-law also. While the husband whiles away time drinking, its Muthu who goes out of her way to take care of her MIL !!! Her husband doesn’t even bother about his mother.
So, the sons are irresponsible. But the mothers love them.
The sons do not take care of their mothers. But the mothers love them.
The sons treat their mother like shit. But the mothers love them.
And reason is simple. This son is going to hold the torch, when the mother meets her final moment in life.
How unfair is this ???
The mother has failed in her duty to raise her son as a responsible human being and she holds on to him for the final torching….its absurdity at its height. But this is how our society lives on.
The mother is not bothered by the jobless son – all she wants from him is to do the final torching.
For one final torch, how much torture should the mother undergo ??? Why such upbringing double standards ??? While Muthu and her sisters have grown to be responsible individuals, what prevented their brother to be like them ???
It’s the mother’s blind love for her son and a totally blind society which thinks that a son is better than a daughter !!!
Thank you God, that you blessed me with daughters for I never want to know such discrimination among children nor the blind love reserved for sons !!!