if I’ve the right to choose my daughter’s friends.
This thought has been going on in my mind for sometime now. And the adolescence makes it difficult for me, the mother.
Whether it’s a presentation, taking xerox, buying cds and copying files for submitting, buying charts and colors and sometimes taking the blame too – falls on the little one’s tiny shoulders. I am hurt as a mother that the other children quietly dump all the job on her, instead of doing it as a group project.
There are moments when I feel that my daughter is taken for a ride by her smarty-pant friends and that my daughter is so naive to understand such selfish relationships. I hurry towards her and hug her. Reason with her and explain the whole damn selfishness behind that and she calmly smiles at me to say that she knows that already. And still she wants to do it for her friends – knowing that she is being taken for a ride !!! 😯 Now, what kind of girl is she ??? 😯
I climb up a few steps towards the highest enlightenment about this Adolescence and skid terribly every time I deal with the situation.
Don’t I have to give the credit to my daughter to learn and understand the relationships around her, all by herself ??? Yes, I have to.
Don’t I have to give her the freedom to go forward ??? Yes, I have to.
But, sometimes I wish that I have the ability to choose my daughter’s friends to actually protect her from the hurt she might encounter later. And this girl wants to learn all by herself. I surely didn’t know when my baby grew up to take such decisions on her own !!!