Yesterday, I was watching a tamil movie – Suryavamsam. And its exactly the same Suryavamsh with Big B !!!
I’ve watched it many a times before and thought about this also. And so I am sharing my thots here.
The son of the Village Chief, doesnt like to study. And since he beat his teacher, the Father made him stop school. All he does is do odd jobs around the house. But he likes a girl, who is nice to him, which makes her special in his heart. And so, his mother, tells his father that we need to get them married.
While the father objects that the girl’s life will be spoiled, if married to this illiterate….the mother thinks that the marriage will turn him for the good. (Watch from 2.00 to 3.00 in that clip – which is where this decision is taken, without even consulting with that girl !!)
Isn’t this the reason for all problems ???? If only a woman can bring about changes in a man, then what does he have a brain for ???
If a man is lazy, not employed, eating in his father’s money, not gone to a school – whatever he is lacking as a person, everything needs a woman to be corrected. How idiotic !!! Doesnt he have a mind of his own to think that he needs to do well in life ???? And should that woman get married to this lazy bum and make him a business magnate or what ????
There can be consultations with each other in a relationship. The wife or the husband can support the other by giving in their views for different situations. But the decision to do something, should be taken by that individual.
And there are others in the other side of the line. Those people feel that their son’s life is lost and made into a living hell, because of his wife. Why did the son allow such a thing to happen to his life ??? Why was he keeping quiet when he was being over-ruled ????
Either of the situations are bad with respect to relationships and is only going to spoil it even more. One person will become too much dependent on the other – both emotionally and physically. And that will be the base of unwanted obsession, which can kill a relationship.
These kind of perspectives need to change !!!