For the Indusladies International Women’s Day Blog Contest, I’ve taken up the topic of RELATIONSHIPS.
I am saddened at the kind of things that happen around me.
Whenever I hear about physical abuse and harassment of women in cases related to dowry, it is a woman who is behind all that abuse. It’s the mother-in-law who curses the daughter-in-law for unhappiness and torture.
I see all those small little girls working as baby-sitters in my apartment, instead of going to school. They are sent to work, by their own mothers. There was this maid of mine, who gave birth to eight girls. Because she was struggling so much financially, I asked her why did you go in for eight kids, you should have done your family planning much earlier !!! Her reply stuns me even today. She wanted a son and in the process, she got eight girls. Being short on finances, she made all her girls go for jobs at a very early age.
And then there are those mothers, who even try to avoid a pregnancy, once they know it is a girl.
There are many women around me, who discriminate other women just because they are menstruating.
While the mother-in-law accepts the fact that her college going daughter need not know cooking, but her daughter-in-law, who is still studying is expected to cook and do all the other house-hold work.
Its the women who have to face eve-teasing.
The college says there is a dress code for the girl students.
And there are so many associations which bring upon the moral code for women.
In India, generally, women are referred to as Lakshmi and a house lightens and prospers once a GrahaLakshmi enters into it. People worship the Durga, the woman, who destroys the manly Asuras. People worship Saraswathi, the divine knowledge provider.
Is the daughter-in-law respected as a GrahaLakshmi, when she enters her husband’s home ????
Are the little girls sent to school, to prove that the worship towards Saraswathi is sincere ????
And what do we do to the women who raise their voice against injustice against them ????? Are they treated like Durga, the destroyer of evil ????
Its the women who suppress the women in this country.
Its the discrimination between a daughter and a daughter-in-law !!!! Its the discrimination of girl children by their own mother !!!! Its the discrimination of widow, divorcee by their own mother and family !!!! Its the discrimination, when women menstruate !!!!
And sadly, all these discriminations are done by women towards women !!!
And when we are so sadly obsessed with the male child, how can we expect a male to give respect to the women ????
First, let us give respect to other women around us, let us treat them with equality, let us not discriminate them !!! Then women will feel the confidence in them glowing. This in turn will gain the respect that is due to women.