I had a friend’s friend call me recently, to find out about the school in which my daughter studies. She happens to live in the same area as mine and was quite interested in knowing about this school, to which my daughters go to. She was contemplating on a school for her kid, who is to join Kinder Garden this year. And, here goes the conversation.
She : Are you happy with the school ????
Me : Absolutely. Otherwise, I would’ve changed the school.
She : But, I heard that it is very much into studies. Is it true ???
Me : What do you want a school to do ??? Make your kids study, right ????
She : But, I don’t want them studying all the time. I want the school to make my child take part in all the extra-curricular activities, too. I dont want more number of working days and I sure want the fees within my reach, too.
Me : So, you want a school, which makes your child study (read study as extremely well), be highly disciplined, play all kinds of sports, take part in singing, dancing, painting and any such competitions and be an all-rounder – all the while satisfying the other two important criteria, right ???
She : Yeah, something like that.
Me : (thinking to myself) Then whats your role as a Mother ????
The conversation went on like that for some more time, before I cut the line. I couldn’t take it anymore.
Yes, I agree that the school my daughters go to is academically oriented. I am very happy. Let the school do that job perfectly. If they fail in the basic teaching methodologies, then I don’t have any other option, other than to shift the school. I am extremely satisfied that the teachers take extra interest in the student’s studies and ask them to stay back after school hours for some time to clear any doubts. I am happy that they make sure the concepts are understood properly. When the teachers are being so supportive, I don’t have any reason to worry.
Some ppl tell me that this kind of academic oriented schools pressurize the kids too much. They’ve exams, class tests, assignments, debates, presentations and many more to plan and work for. Yes, there are a lot of exams and tests. But, I feel that if I am being supportive of my children, I can ease the pressure on them. I help my daughter in collecting the info, from which she consolidates for her project. I help her out in whatever way I can – this makes her understand that I am with her always. And never do I put in the condition, that she needs to score above 90% or 95%. I keep telling her to understand the concepts and do her best.
And when I go for the parent-teacher meetings, I ask only one question to the teacher – Does she behave well in the class. Marks can come and go and might not be important to her in the long run towards her ambition, but I want her to be a good human being, sensitive to the ppl around her.
I am quite happy at the way the school encourages extra-curricular activities. The School takes extra interest in sending the children for Inter-school competitions, conducts debates and essay writing competitions regularly to improve the ability to put across your thoughts in a positive way.
But, if I think that it is not good enough for my daughter, I can always enroll her in some weekend classes to make her learn music / dance / instrument or anything she wants. And sometimes, the interest should come from the kids too.
When I shifted from Hyd to Chennai, no school was willing to admit my girls in the middle of the academic year. Every school assured me of a seat in the next academic year and we were not willing to stay in Hyd, while S was already in Chennai. This school, the branch of the school my daughters study in Hyd, was the only willing school to give admission to both my daughters. For ppl like me, who shift places, quite often, any school that satisfies the basic criteria of education will do. And I am extremely happy with the school’s way of functioning and teaching methodologies.
My take on a particular school is not be the same like other parents. I might like the school for some particular reasons and might be pleased with my expectations being satisfied. But for other parents, it will be a differnet scenario. The school could have failed miserably in satisfying some other parent. So, whats your take on the school scenario ????
And now, my daughters want to learn the Guitar. I am on the hunt for a good teacher. Wish me luck. 🙂