Nancy, my good friend, you’ve really understood my need of topics for doing this monstrous task of NaBloPoMo, this December. May be I shld have taken it up, in February, I could have finished it in just 28 posts.
Anyway, Nancy commented in her post, that the topic could be used by me, to write about my own experience. And so here it is.
What is the marriageable age for women in India ?????? 18 yrs, right ????? And so, my Mom was waiting for my 18th birthday to come. That same day, she took my horoscope to our family sastrigal (guru) and gave him the first request – Pl find a good groom for my daughter.
Me and my sister were very much against this. Why so early ????? I was studying and didn’t want to get married so soon.
My Mom had her one and only reason.
I was born under the Moola star. Girls with Moola star have the monster effect of swallowing their future father-in-law. Don’t know which monster created this. So, she has to start looking early, so that I get a good-hearted man. Also, she can pick and choose families, where I won’t be having a father-in-law.
Also, I was the first daughter in the house, the grandchild in both maternal and paternal sides. So, the whole family was getting excited to see me getting married. But all I could think was, they are all getting excited in pushing me out of the house.
Whatever reasoning I did for postponing this match finding drill, fell on deaf ears.
My Mom had formed the Core team which consisted of my Mother, my first Mami, my Chachi and my grandmother. Both my Mom and my Mami were working and their weekly off was only Sunday. I can’t imagine how many Sundays, have they lost searching a groom for me.
They registered with every available Matrimonial Agency in the City, to begin with. Poor Mom, may be she would have been benefitted, had there been any Matrimonial Websites, in those days.
Those Agencies will come up with a newsletter, where all the details of the registered members will be printed. So, my Mom and one of her teammates will visit one Agency after another, every Sunday. They’ll patiently go through the newsletter and see if any grooms will match with their major criteria – no future father-in-law.
If that criteria is satisfied, then they’ll write down all the groom’s details, along with his horoscope.
Now, all these grooms horoscopes will be sent to our family sastrigal, for matchmaking. Then after the sastrigal gives his verdict, my Mom and one of her team mates will visit this groom’s place.
And after going there, they’ll be informed that the guy is already married and they totally forgot to remove his details from the matrimonial agency. You should have seen my Mom’s face, during those times. Poor Mom – she was disappointed so many times, but never she went back on her mission.
Every passing day became a week and weeks to months and months to years, but these women dutifully carried on the task of finding me a groom with just only one criteria – no future father-in-law.
After six long years of penance, and looking at every possible boy in our community, these women were totally disappointed. Nobody to match our girl and our criteria – What to do ????? 🙄
Then one fine day, S’s mother called home. She told that they have seen my horoscope and they are very satisfied. Can we come and see the girl, was her direct question.
My Father, who attended the phone, was quite happy and hesitant too. He was fumbling for words to ask her about the important criteria. How to go about that ????
So, my Dad told her, that my daughter has got the Moola star. Is that OK ????
My mother-in-law agreed and also proceeded to tell my Dad that S’s father died when S was only 11 yrs old.
And so, finally, my marriage was fixed with S.
The most surprising thing is, my Mom and her team mates went about every part of Chennai to look for a groom for me. But S came from a place just 2 Km away from our home. Isn’t it surprising ????? You might be searching the whole world for a suitable partner. In all possibilities, he might be just a few houses / streets away. And till you meet up with him and talk to him, you’ll never know.
And so, my Mom’s six-year penance was blessed by God and I finally got married.
Pl await more interesting incidents !!!!!!