When I was moving from Hyderabad to Chennai, many of my friends warned me – Chennai is a very conservative place. Take Care !!!!
Yeah, I knew about this, being a Chennaiite, myself. I was prepared for this too, mentally. But when I got a sample of it, I laughed out loud (obviously, at home), while writing the following comparison…
When you move into a flat : (This flat is one of the 300 odd flats in that apartment)
Hyderabad – When you meet ppl in a lift, they smile at you. This is very important as you feel welcome here. They (ppl already staying there) ask you, “Hv you shifted here recently ??? You seem to be quite new, here !!!! Which flat have you moved into ?????”
Chennai – When ppl meet you in the lift, they do a half-smile at you in a hurry – indirectly telling you that dont even think of starting a conversation, I am very busy.
When you meet the native speaking aunties in the apartment temple :
Hyderabad – Even though there was no temple in the apartment, the elderly took an interest in knowing the youngsters. One hundred questions will follow the smile and they’ll know your family history in a matter of time. All these elders are native Chennaiites.
Chennai : There is a lovely Ganesh temple. And yeah, puja happens every morning and evening. But alas, nobody takes note of the new entrant in that place, which is me. I keep smiling at everybody, but they hastily move away. Is something wrong with me ?????? 🙄
When you meet a group of ladies, chit chatting and one of them knows you :
Hyderabad : You’ll be introduced to everyone in the group and from one friend, you make lot of friends in a small meeting.
Chennai : The person who knows you, takes you away from the group and talks to you in a whisper and then moves back to her group. What am I ?????? 🙄
The mothers of my daughters’ friends :
Hyderabad : Are my good friends, too. The rapport is good. And we have excellent conversations. Few of them of fellow Tamilians.
Chennai : They say a hurried Hi and get going. Conversations – a big no no !!!! 🙄
The evening time :
Hyderabad : Children have a gala time, playing together and making new friends. The mothers follow suit, in making new friends.
Chennai : Kids are always studying – there is no play time. It happens occasionally once in a week or so. The ladies too are confined to their house. Why ? Why ??? Why ?????
When you pass by a new face in the block :
Hyderabad : First you are greeted by a smile. Then introductions and so on.
Chennai : OMG !!! I just passed by a human being. Thank God, I am staying in a place full of faceless ppl. 🙄
There are many more incidents like these. So, even though I’ve moved to my native place, I feel out-of-place. It’s not only the ppl of Chennai. Those ppl who are natives of other states and have made Chennai their native, too, have become like this.
The comparison with Hyderabad came naturally to me, as my home in Hyderabad was situated in a similar environment and with a mixed cosmo crowd.
For a Chennaiite, who had stayed out of Chennai for some years, this CHENNAIISM is just shocking and the culture mind-boggling. It will take a lot of time, for me and my daughters to get some friends, here, and to feel one among the crowd. Just hoping that I dont become part of the other crowd.
I think that Chennaiites, who stay out of Chennai, are more sociable than ppl staying here.
Whats your take on this ???????