I’ve been learning a few things in the past few days, which have made me pause and take a different look at life. These insights into life, make us a better human being for tomorrow.
Lesson 1 :
No person or incident can make you less happy in life. The happiness factor depends upon – how you react to the incident or the person.
Scene – Early morning 6.45 at the breakfast table.
My girls are having milk and scrambled egg for breakfast. I am busy plaiting my daughter’s hair. At that time, I hear the horn of the school bus. OMG, the bus has come nearly 10 minutes early. My daughter, reacting to my frenzied pace, started gulping down her milk pretty fast. As I am requesting the bus driver to wait for my daughters, I hear my daughters plea to come and help her. Alas, the milk had spilled on her uniform.
Usual me – Start shouting at my girls for not being efficient in doing things, always being clumsy etc etc. My daughter will go to school with a grumpy face, which might affect her attentiveness at class. The screaming woman in me will be displayed to the hubby dear also, which can spoil his whole day at work.
The New Me – Because of my new learning, I faced the situation in a calm and peaceful way. I smiled at my daughter and said “Its OK, dear. It happens to us also. Don’t worry, I’ll ask the bus driver to wait for few more minutes while you change your uniform”. WOW, Wasn’t that easy ? My daughter will go to school with a big smile on her face. And more importantly, the happy woman in me is flashing the happy smile on my S too. Every body’s day goes off well and I am happy that I’ve been instrumental in that.
Just by reacting differently to the whole scenario, I made myself feel happy. So, its all inside us – how you react is how you’ll feel.
Lesson 2 :
Being grateful in life, for all that you have, is the secret to happiness in your life.
Scene – Prayer before bedtime, with my girls.
The regular questions which I face are – Is God hearing our prayers ? Can he understand, if I ask for an iPod, and give it to me ? How can he help in my studies, when I can’t see him ? And many more like this.
Usual me – Pray to God with a sincere heart and he’ll grant all your wishes. By encouraging my daughters, when they are asking for more and more things, I’ve enabled them to understand that the keyword is – keep asking but ask sincerely.
The New Me – The new order in my home is this – Prayers at bedtime are not meant for asking for things, instead they are for thanking God for all that he has given to us. I am insisting on my girls to list 3 things everyday, for which they are extremely thankful to God. Also, I make them write down those things. Eventually, they’ll come to understand that we have so many things to be happy about in life.
I hope that I am imparting a great lesson to my children to follow in their lives, for which I am grateful to God. By being grateful, I found the key to my happiness.