Unforgettable day of my life

At last, I’ve found the courage to write about this. Its been 2 years that this incident happened in my home and now, I’ve decided to type it out. The reason being that letting it out will bring solace to my heart and soul.
We had shifted to our new flat in the May of 2006 and all the wood work were done by July end.
At this time, Srini got a Faber Chimney (Mesh type) and had it fixed. I was elated and proud
about my new home and it looked great.
It was the 25th of Dec, 2006 and I had my house full of people who had come for vacation – my
mother-in-law, my brother-in-law and family, my sister-in-law and family. Actually, I love having people around and I was sure that this vacation will be a memorable one.
My new maid of 1 month, was there to help me prepare breakfast. I told her to fry puris and I had just gone out of the kitchen to serve coffee for my in-laws and puris for kids. Everybody was so excited meeting with each other, the kids loved eating puris and even the elders were waiting to bite into breakfast. As the kids were finishing, I was calling all the others to join for breakfast.
Suddenly, from my living room, I could see flames from my oil pan and the chimney was fast
catching it, as the chimney was ON and it was sucking the fumes of oil. It was an accident, where
water from wet hands or whatever has sprayed on the hot oil and the result was total chaos. From a moment of happiness and laughter, we were all pushed into tears and sadness over the whole incident. All of us stood there watching helplessly, my chimney burn, melt and fall onto my gas stove beneath it. In a matter of 30 mins, nothing was left of the chimney and my gas stove also fell prey to this.
Here, I have to thank the three men, Srini, Ramesh anna (my brother-in-law), Govindarajan
athimber (my sister-in-law’s husband), who stood like pillars of strength, especially for me. They cleaned up the kitchen which was totally filled with black soot, re-painted the kitchen walls, bought me a new gas stove and made many an effort to make me feel better. My heartfelt gratitude for these 3 strong men, who helped the whole family to have a good time together.
I wanted to talk about it, mainly cry about it to somebody. But I thought that it was better that the whole incident is forgotten about, and I carried on. But, I used to get disturbing dreams that something is burning. When we go out, I used to think that I’ve left something on my gas and it was burning.
I felt miserable with these disturbing thoughts. One side, my heart wants to forget the incident and on the other hand, I am getting these dreams. Oh God, what should I do?
In the month of April, I just happened to see a small white patch in my forehead. Everybody said that it was a sunburn. But it was the beginning of VITILIGO or LEUKODERMA. When Allopathy medicines didn’t help, I sought the help of a homeopath. He was a Godsend to me. Whether he gave me good medicines or not, he counselled me very well. This person instructed me to talk about the chimney incident to as many people as possible. The more I talk about it, the less stressful I’ll be. This stress on my unconscious mind had triggered this Vitiligo, which is basically melanin deficiency. And I started losing the colour of my skin in patches all over the body.
After his counselling, I’ve spoken to many a people about this and of course, I’ve taken
homeopathy medicines for one year and it did help me a lot. Now I am under Ayurveda
medication and I hope that it will help me to overcome this Vitiligo. I am healing a lot with this
ayurvedic medicines, thanks to the courage of my loved ones.
But more than all these medicines, the most important thing is always thinking good and positive about future. I’ve built upon my friends circle here, so that there is always somebody to whom I
can express my concerns and fears. I also try and keep myself busy, eventually not giving scope to the mind for unnecessary thoughts. I had gone for yoga classes for 4 months and the pranayams have really helped me heal. Now I am going for dancexercise classes. My idea is to join in group activities as they make you healthy in mind and body.
Thank you dear ones, for listening to me ! It made me feel better.

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11 Replies to “Unforgettable day of my life”

  1. It must really have been terrible. After u told me, I look at my chimney suspiciously all the time. Also extra careful.
    Don’t worry dear, It all happens for the best. There must be some reason why it happened and the one thing I am very happy about is that none of u got hurt in anyway!

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  2. Hugs to u Uma… brave indeed to talk abt it. U say u r feeling better as u hv opened up, but infact, u r helping all of us by creating awareness 🙂
    And what r friends for, if we do nt lend an ear … always a phone call away 🙂 God bless u and ur lovely family 🙂 And its such a nice thing that nobody ws hurt in the accident!

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  3. Hi Uma… Hats off to you for taking the whole thing positively and opening up.
    Yes,talking about events that worry you really is a big de-stressor. In one of the programmes i attended we were asked to share our ‘story’/problems with other group-mates,and usually they were persons not known to you. i found it was so easy opening up and discussing problems and sometimes we even find a solution to our problems by just listening to others stories

    i reached this story of urs via te serial kills blog

    U have expressed yourself well… tnx for sharing

    Suja

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    1. Welcome here Sujatha !!! And I am glad that there are ppl around like you, to give me all the support I need 🙂

      Talking about / letting out problems in a group is certainly a therapy !!!

      Am glad you took the time to read through the links !!! Thank you 🙂

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  4. Sharing is the key! It heals you as well as helps others who maybe going though tough situations Uma.
    I too learnt the hard way that stress kills.. silently. Have paid the price and have come out better.. thankfully!

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