Weekend rant

I’ve done it before, of course, the rant – here.

And it keeps happening again.

My household help is Muthu, a very sweet and naive woman, mother of three little girls – read something more about her here.

She keeps throwing up questions at me, which shakes me up so much ! So, what was her question now ??

Akka, have you read Bhagvad Gita ??

Yes, sort of (as I’ve read a few chapters of it).

Does the Bhagvad Gita tell you that you should not allow people from other castes to touch things in your house ?? Like me touching the Pressure Cooker or the Gas Stove or vessels or things like that ??

***Absolute shocking silence from me***
And then, I shake myself and ask “Why such a doubt suddenly??”

I work for this other house…you also know her. In her house, her mom doesn’t allow me to touch any vessels. She washes them all after I clean up. Is this what the Bhagvad Gita says?? Because all people follow their holy book, right??

Muthu….Muthu….not only Bhagvad Gita, none of the holy books talk about discrimination to people based on caste or anything. All the holy books talk about way of life – by doing good things to others. The caste and other things like touching or non-touching have been created by us, humans and its a terrible thing to do.  To treat another human being lowly just because of silly reasons like caste is the biggest of crimes. 


Even though I sort of explained things to her, it was a slap on the face moment for me.  I wondered how for all the lowly things which the humans are doing, the holy books are held responsible…sigh…



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Weekend fun: That playlist made me…

shop more !! Seriously people and I’m pretty shocked too.

I went to buy bread to the supermarket. May be I would’ve sent someone else. But what with this browsing-through-the-aisles-make-you-feel-better thought of mine over-riding everything, I went in myself.

That’s it. That’s the end of the deal where I buy only bread and come out in a jiffy.

The moment I enter, the melodious voice of SP Balasubramaniam welcomed me with the wonderful track which goes like “Kadhalin deepam ondru“. And there I fell from my “buy bread and go out in a jiffy“.  This song is my eternal favorite and that movie was a super hit during my school days and Rajnikanth – I still go WOW at the way he holds people’s attention.  And SPB…sigh….no words for him. His voice is the one which can sooth the soul in any form – happy, melody, sad – whatever. And you know, he sometimes laughs in between the singing for a few seconds – you’ve to really look out for it – there, me and my sister will pass on a shared smile and hold onto our heart. Too beautiful, I say. We even had a collection in a cassette of those songs, where he laughed a little in between. I’ve digressed enough. Let me continue my supermarket journey….I went around the bakery section three times, went through all the bakery products available, posed as though I’m reading the date and ingredients and then to the freezer section too. By the time, the last line of the song was playing, I had picked up the bread and almost decided to check out.

And that is the time they choose to put Atif Aslam from that Ranbir Kapoor movie…Oh my God…I just went back into the shop and was swaying to the music yet making everyone around me think that I am seriously debating which biscuits and cereals to buy.  The fingers were going tap-tap tap on the trolley giving away my soul’s attraction to that track being played. Someone smiled…someone else hummed and I felt good browsing the coffee and tea sections too – of course, listening to the song :D

The trolley was filled with a cereal box – we both don’t eat cereals, some flavored tea which we don’t like and then a few other things, I’m sure which will be of no use to us.

As Atif Aslam was coming to an end, my promise to buy only bread has weakened and I was waiting for the next song to start. And there are more aisles waiting for me to visit ;)

This was the next on the playlist – Alvida – I hope you know that KK is another of my favorite singer and this song from Metro always steals my heart…Alvida…Oh dear…how much do I sigh…that voice is magical !!

I think I entered the shop during the last song of the tamil playlist and got to listen to the hindi ones next.

I really want to find the guy who knew exactly what song to play to keep people like me inside the shop for longer durations and may be we will end up buying something or other.

See, some unwanted items bought – a sauce pan, some door mats on offer, two big loaves of bread (I wanted only one small one), cereal, flavored tea – I’m telling you, these songs are making me buy more ;)

What if I’m a sales girl in that super market ?? WOW…I get to listen to all the songs there :P :P

Or a more simple idea would be to have that playlist on phone and keep listening to it…what do you say ?? :D

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WW – Umi’s Podis

sambar podiThe Umi’s Podis, a new venture for making your kitchen more fragrant with the smells of sambar and rasam, to stack your shelves with awesomely tasting curry leaves podi, idly milagai podi and paruppu podi. Wanna try it ?? Connect on Facebook [here].

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Weekend Musing : Being Religiously Correct

When Thursday was a holiday on behalf of Ganesh Chaturthi, it felt like a “mid-week weekend break”.  It’s during these break times that my mind goes into some serious thought process which has resulted in this musings post.

Yesterday’s visit to a legendary place of worship in Chennai brought my focus on to the right track and here are a few for you.

There is the sign in that place of worship which prohibits people of other religions to enter inside.  Reading that sign, I was angry and ashamed at the same time.

Now, can anyone explain in the truest sense what does it mean “to belong to a particular religion”???  Is it wearing the traditional clothes associated with a particular religion?? Or blindly visiting places of worship?? Or simply being human and kind, as all the religions in this whole wide world says?

If anyone truly looks into any of the holy books for reference, all one could get is that all religions talk about a way of life – the way to live, the way to show love, the way to show kindness, the way to show charity – it’s the way of GOOD. All the other customs or traditions were the making of the people and in effect created a vast discrimination among people.

And we still follow those customs and traditions blindly not understanding it one bit and in effect, not allowing a particular sect of people to come into places of worship. Isn’t God the same for every human being??  Why should there be differences in allowing people into places of worship??

I recently had the opportunity to visit places of worship belonging to other faiths and I was humbled by the whole experience. God is the same everywhere…people go with such tremendous faith in the Supreme to help them in their personal lives.  Now, is it wrong of me to have enjoyed those experiences of being in a different place of worship other than mine??

There is also one more thing that keeps bothering me – that holding onto the fact that you can do charity only to people of same religion. Where is humanity in this?? Hunger is the same in all religions and food should be given to people who are hungry not because they follow a certain faith.

And then when I’m given food because I belong to a particular religion, I am confounded with doubts of whether I truly belong to this sect of people, as I don’t have any qualities like them !  What if one of my forefathers lied to his successors about the lineage and I’m mistakenly taken as part of this sect??

Hunger, shelter, protective clothes are a need to the human kind and is certainly not decided on the basis of religion or faith. It’s just so simple to follow. I do not understand the adherence of religion to do charity.

We spend so much on cooking fabulous meals during Death ceremony and finally the left-over food is thrown in the dust bin. Yes, that food cannot be shared with anyone outside the family.  Or may be it can be given to the cow. Now, where is the cow?? My heart bleeds at such waste of food.

Just have a look at the food being wasted at weddings / parties / other small functions. Can we show a little compassion here and give the left-over food to people who are starving??

And then there are so many small family functions which are part of a bigger tradition relating to the welfare of the family. But entry is restricted only to people of the same religion.  Food and clothes are given only to people of the same sect.  Even if anyone is need of the food or clothes, it is not entertained.  I can say with certainty that religion is surely taking over all the core-values that maketh a human.

Let us make that effort to let people go into places of worship and let religion not be the restricting force.
Let us give food, clothes, shelter to people who need it very much and not restrict to people of one single religion.
Let charity be done based on morality !

And let us not allow religion to over ride the humanitarian values !


PS : What I wrote yesterday seemed quite blunt to the point, which I liked. But here is the polished version of the post, as I should be Religiously Correct on the social media !


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Microblog Mondays: My new love is…



Yes. I joined Instagram quite recently and am loving it.

I feel extremely happy posting “ONLY pics” from my phone.  The fun lies in writing interesting hash tags.  I’m there and trying to make better hash tags.

Somehow, it feels like my picture blog.  I put pics there for my happiness…there ends the matter.  Who’s online at that time – I don’t know – I don’t want to know !  Who’s ignored to LIKE my pic – again, I really don’t want to know !  As I write here for my happiness and I post pics with Instagram, for my self-obsessed happiness.

So, are you on Instagram too ??



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Stand up for your heart…

Dear first-born,

Stand up for your heart, dear one
For nothing else will matter in the long run.

I think it’s the need of the hour to tell you a few things of the heart.  You’ve crossed the legal major milestone, but you’re still a child in matters of the heart. And especially when it comes to your career, it’s better to follow thy heart.  For the one you choose with your heart is always the best one for you.  Now, you’re doing the culinary course listening to your heart. Now, take the big step of taking a job, in the same way – listening to your heart.

There are many who say that mind is logical and its best to follow that route – even I did.  I’ve had my great moments in my career as a Computer Science Engineer, but I wonder now, why didn’t I take to writing earlier !! I love it…I find happiness in expressing myself with words.  I find happiness in baking, cooking and I should have gone for that career.  Little did I know that all these matters of the heart should be taken seriously.   And these ways of the heart are the one to give us maximum happiness and satisfaction of a life fully lived.

To quote a living example : Your dad was exemplary in his career and had many a high spots in his marketing field. But it was only when his passion for food got converted into a business that he really found true happiness.  He took many years to realize and go for it. Sometimes, we are afraid to take the plunge as the mind keeps telling us logical situations and their outcomes.  And in the process happiness gets lost.

Break that fear, dear ! It’ll constrain you.
Listen to your heart…it’ll make birds of you !
Flying towards your passion
And hence you’ll be happy for no reason !

Use your mind to accumulate knowledge but using it for situations in life is something to pause and introspect.  I don’t know if anyone else will tell you NOT to think logically.  Because as I write for you today, I can tell you with assurance – I’ve been there in the logical side and all. But here, when I listen to my heart and bake or cook or write, I’m the happiest.  It doesn’t seem like work.  I’m enjoying every moment of it.

You think I’m the best mom ?? I listened to my heart, my instincts as a mother…that’s why you think I’m best. Now, you listen to your heart. You’ll be the best in whatever you do !

Life is short, life is once, live it to your maximum, live it by listening to your heart !
So, when your heart tells you to follow a path, stand up for it and walk through the path with your heart !


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WW – The Majestic Gopuram

DSCN1372Now, isn’t that magnificent ?? The Gopuram that reaches into the sky !! Couldn’t take my eyes off it !!

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WW – A Lotus Ceiling


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Microblog Mondays – The beginning of the “Pause” cycle


When the cycle doesn’t hit on time
Umpteen thoughts join in the crime
Of sleepless moments
Praying that the untoward accident
Didn’t happen this time !

Doubts keep plaguing
A non-stop checking
For that funny feeling
As the breath is quivering
“Oh !! Come on now”
But the uterus held on to the waiting.

The mind is never still
Keeps googling for reasons to chill
But that big doubt on heart is heavy
What if the knots on the ovary
Went awry
(he he…that’s stupid but scary) ;)

And then the moment came
In glory and making one sane
That all this drama need not be staged
Its the pause dear…
So, stay calm and clear :)


















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Conversations – so much more to talk…

Read my previous post on this topic – Conversations to catch up on some of my favorite conversations.

And it continues…
Many people think I’m reserved or I’m shy to begin with. But people who know me in and out will vouch for the chatter box I’m – it takes time to open up, right ?? Or else, it should be the right person – then the conversations hit a high on first sight :)

The lovely bond I had with two supermarket sales girls is a fond memory.  Whenever I visited the supermarket, those two girls will be around to help me with what I want. Their smile and my instant reaction to it and of course, the easy chatter that followed made the bond stronger. They keep talking about their own life or about a new song or movie or whatever and I keep going on about my girls and other stuff. Now, they have moved away from that supermarket and I see them in some other shop selling things. But that smile is the same and words flow freely and they ask me about my girls, referring to them by name. One of my fav bonds with random people.

There used to be a time, when I was a Stay at home mom and spent a lot of time online, writing posts almost daily and totally enjoying it. And through the blogs, I met Sagarika, my dear friend. We used to talk a lot on Google chat – I still remember the crazy amount of time we spent chatting online about everything under the sun. Such a memorable time and a friendship to remember for a lifetime. And when I met her, it was all the more wonderful – she is just an extension of the screen persona. Even though both of us have become so busy to chat like that, she’s stays dear to my heart always.  Now, as I think and write about her, I suddenly see an update from her and she was also thinking about me – such telepathy :D

In the apartment I stay, I never get sunlight in my balconies or rooms or anywhere. There is plentyful of light but no sunlight. So, I hold back my love for flowering plants as they need a decent amoutn of sunlight to survive. My sole comfort is my money plant ! If you’re wondering about why a plant has come into this post, then you just don’t know me ;)  Amazing are my conversations with my money plant. Every day as I water the plant, sprinkle water on the leaves and keep talking about what a darling plant she is, I can see the happiness in my plant growing. And she makes me happy with a new leaf next morning. Have you ever talked to your plants ??

Me and my daughters share this rare and beautiful bond of talking our heart out without hiding our feelings. And with both of them away from home, our own Whatsapp group keeps us alive and buzzing with life always.  From teasing one another, to very bad lame jokes, to movies and serials, studies, assignments – anything that can happen in our lives reflects in this group of ours. Its our tiny let out place and sometimes I love reading the conversations between my girls :D

Sometimes random conversations to a stranger in the supermarket can lead to great bonds of friendship. This has happened to me and I feel quite lucky about it. She was looking at things in one aisle and I happened to just look at her and we smiled and started talking and there has been no looking back. That first meeting, we would’ve talked non-stop for an hour or so. It made us good partners for walking too, as we talked more than walk.  Even though I’m unable to spend that much time talking to her now, she still remains one of the wonderful friends, with whom I can be myself.

More conversations to come ;)

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